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Negative Self-Talk

what you think matters

What is your predominant self-talk?  Or as I like to call it your ‘internal chatterbox’.  Our patterns of negative or positive self-talk start in childhood and can affect us in many ways, including how we experience stress in our lives. When you are listening to something on the radio that you don’t want to listen to, you turn the volume down or change the channel.  In the same way you can choose to turn the volume down on your ‘internal chatterbox’ or change the channel of your negative self-talk at any time.

The first step towards change is to become aware of what your particular negative dialogue is and how often you say negative things in your head.

To help you become more conscious of this you can write it down.  Either carry a notebook around with you and jot down negative comments as and when you think them, or write a general summary of your negative thoughts at the end of the day noting when you had the negative thoughts, what you were doing, where you were and who you were with.

Once you’re aware of your internal dialogue you can begin to replace negative self-talk with something more positive.  Here are some ways that you can change your self-talk:

Milder Wording – using milder or more neutral words can really help your experience of a situation. Use words like ‘discomfort’ instead of ‘pain’, or ‘don’t like’ instead of ‘hate’, or ‘annoyed’ instead of ‘angry’.

Change Negative to Positive – when you find yourself complaining about something, rethink your assumptions. Are you assuming something is a negative event when it isn’t? For example, having your plans cancelled at the last minute can be seen as a negative, but what you do with your newly freed up time can be what you choose to make of it.

Reword Statements to Ask ‘How?’ – statements like “I can’t handle this!” or “It’s impossible!” are damaging because they increase your stress in any given situation and they stop your mind from searching for solutions. If you ask a question instead, your mind will always search for an answer. Try asking: “How can I handle this better?” or “How is this possible?” to open up your mind to new possibilities.

Developing more positive self-talk will bring more positive energy into your life and you’ll gain control of your mind to boost productivity, self-esteem and relieve stress.

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