How Trauma And Shame Are Deeply Connected

How Trauma And Shame Are Deeply Connected

Trauma can make you feel broken, weak, or unrepairable.  During an event or experience your body might react in certain ways, or go into a freeze state and that may lead you to misunderstand, judge or shame yourself. Added to that the negative reactions from...
Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse For survivors of abuse (neglect, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual) saying “no” and setting boundaries can be extremely difficult.   This is because your nervous system may still be stuck in childhood...
Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Do you sometimes feel a bit short-changed in your relationships? When you think about your relationships do you tend to give more or receive more? The quality of your relationships has a powerful impact on your nervous system.  The traumatic experiences you hold...
Trauma Healing Through Connection

Trauma Healing Through Connection

The best and worst thing for your nervous system can be the people around you. Who you spend your time with impacts your nervous system. Who makes you feel anxious? Who makes you feel shutdown? Who helps you to feel connected, calm and safe? You are biologically...
Why Does Touch Feel So Hard When You’ve Been Through Trauma?

Why Does Touch Feel So Hard When You’ve Been Through Trauma?

Do you flinch when your partner reaches out to touch you or hug you?  Maybe you’ve lost all interest in physical affection.  This is not uncommon if you’ve experienced trauma.  You may have noticed that touch – something that is meant to feel...
Alone for Christmas: Tribal Belonging, Trauma Responses, and Practical Coping Strategies

Alone for Christmas: Tribal Belonging, Trauma Responses, and Practical Coping Strategies

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joyful celebration and togetherness. But for many, it can be a painful reminder of loneliness and the holidays can be an isolating time, especially if you’re spending Christmas day alone. This isn’t just a matter of...