How Trauma And Shame Are Deeply Connected

How Trauma And Shame Are Deeply Connected

Trauma can make you feel broken, weak, or unrepairable.  During an event or experience your body might react in certain ways, or go into a freeze state and that may lead you to misunderstand, judge or shame yourself. Added to that the negative reactions from...
Trauma and Interoception

Trauma and Interoception

You may have read books about the vagus nerve or nervous system regulation and done all the “hacks” online.  Maybe you’ve tried various different types of therapy and can describe your trauma history, know what your triggers are and explain your unhelpful...
Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse For survivors of abuse (neglect, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual) saying “no” and setting boundaries can be extremely difficult.   This is because your nervous system may still be stuck in childhood...
Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Do you sometimes feel a bit short-changed in your relationships? When you think about your relationships do you tend to give more or receive more? The quality of your relationships has a powerful impact on your nervous system.  The traumatic experiences you hold...
Managing Big Life Changes at Christmas: Coping with Divorce, Family Estrangement, or Bereavement

Managing Big Life Changes at Christmas: Coping with Divorce, Family Estrangement, or Bereavement

The festive season is often portrayed as a time of joy and togetherness, but for many, it can be a time of deep emotional stress. Particularly when big changes like divorce, family relationship breakdown, or the loss of a loved one happen, the holidays can feel like a...
People Pleasing and Handling Xmas Expectations

People Pleasing and Handling Xmas Expectations

Ladies let’s face it: Christmas can feel less like a season of joy and more like a season of jobs! Between hosting, gift shopping, decorating, cooking, organising secret Santa exchanges, and making sure the dog doesn’t eat the tree ornaments, it often feels like...