Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse

Why Boundaries Are So Hard After Trauma or Abuse For survivors of abuse (neglect, emotional, psychological, physical, sexual) saying “no” and setting boundaries can be extremely difficult.   This is because your nervous system may still be stuck in childhood...
Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Trauma and Reciprocity in Relationships

Do you sometimes feel a bit short-changed in your relationships? When you think about your relationships do you tend to give more or receive more? The quality of your relationships has a powerful impact on your nervous system.  The traumatic experiences you hold...
Managing Big Life Changes at Christmas: Coping with Divorce, Family Estrangement, or Bereavement

Managing Big Life Changes at Christmas: Coping with Divorce, Family Estrangement, or Bereavement

The festive season is often portrayed as a time of joy and togetherness, but for many, it can be a time of deep emotional stress. Particularly when big changes like divorce, family relationship breakdown, or the loss of a loved one happen, the holidays can feel like a...
People Pleasing and Handling Xmas Expectations

People Pleasing and Handling Xmas Expectations

Ladies let’s face it: Christmas can feel less like a season of joy and more like a season of jobs! Between hosting, gift shopping, decorating, cooking, organising secret Santa exchanges, and making sure the dog doesn’t eat the tree ornaments, it often feels like...
What is Medical Trauma?

What is Medical Trauma?

Medical trauma can have lasting effects on the body and mind because we feel so vulnerable. We may realise that we cannot control our circumstances or we become aware of the limitations of our bodies and have to put our trust in the medical expertise of others. For...
Part 3 ~ How to Set Boundaries in Close Relationships

Part 3 ~ How to Set Boundaries in Close Relationships

Part 3 ~ Setting Boundaries in Close Relationships: How to Establish Healthy Limits When you need to set boundaries with someone close to you, use calm, assertive language to discuss the boundary clearly and in advance, to give the person a head’s up that things will...